And yet Rory is called badass for standing up to the Doctor while Danny gets shat on by the fandom for doing the exact same thing.

this is Danny telling his personal experience and trying to make that experience useful to someone he cares about, which is a legitimate relationship thing.  NOT the same as controlling or abusive. he’s not even being rigid like not approving of her travels in the TARDIS.  he’s absolutely more flexible to the whole adventure thing than i expected anybody to be, and a lot more than past companions’ boyfriends had been.